October 2nd, 2009

The more time we spend with the wrong person means the less time we spend with the right one.
(Line from Lovers in Paris)


My thoughts:

How would you know if the one you are spending your time with is the wrong person?
It is only spending time with someone that you'll get to know that he's the right or wrong one.
What's worst is when you've spent long years thinking and feeling that a person is the right one but then, one day, you'll just come into a realization that he's the wrong person.

What if you can't spend your time with the right person because he is spending his time with the wrong one...
that both of you are the right ones for each other but both of you are spending your precious time with the wrong ones.
And you can't turn back time anymore... so you just stick with the wrong person than make yourself a fool in front of others.
That you are very cautious about what others say... 'coz the relationship has been going on for years, and even if he/she's the wrong one, you'll try so hard to make yourself believe that he/she's the right one.

Then after long years of being with that wrong person, you meet the right one. You try to control things and stick with the wrong person 'coz there's little time to spend with the right one. And you've been too accustomed living with the wrong person so you'll just accept him as he/she is.

So what's the happy ending? Spending time with the wrong person or with the right one.

The answer should have been spending time with the right one. In long lasting relationships, the contrary is true. Sometimes, the couple, though not the right ones for each other, live together happily ever after. Sad but true, people sometimes meet the right ones in their lives when they have already learned to accept the imperfections of the wrong one. And because men and women are responsible individuals with sense of morality, they stick with the wrong one, depriving themselves of real happiness with the right one. And in the legal point of view, an illegitimate child is born when a person meets the right person when he/she has already spent more time with the wrong one.

But I'm still inclined to believe that the happy ending is spending time with the right person...
against all odds... be with the right one...

Lesson: Make sure that the person you are with is the right one. It may be very difficult to know if he/she is the right one but try to do so. End an existing relationship if you have doubts on your mind that he/she is the right one. A doubt, no matter how small, should never be underestimated. It would make a lot of difference.

(in my facebook notes)